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Mexican food and culture, on both sides of the border

Lesley Tellez

Exploring Mexico City’s Korean markets

August 6, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

Outside Seoul Mart in the Zona Rosa, Mexico City

Ethnically, Mexico City is pretty homogeneous. Few Asians live here, compared to the United States. And it seems like there are even fewer black people.

In the last few decades, however, a Korean neighborhood has popped up in the Zona Rosa, an area known mostly for its gay clubs and sex shops. Korean restaurants, pastry shops and markets sit in a quieter area of the ‘hood, mostly clustered around leafy, tranquil Hamburgo and Varsovia streets.

Interestingly, the Mexican mainstream media seems to have taken little notice of this until recently. In the three guidebooks I have, few, if any, Korean restaurants are recommended. None of the markets are mentioned as viable delis, although they sell ready-made items such as pickled radish, green tea ice cream and squishy, plastic-wrapped Korean desserts.

Recently, Chilango magazine recommended a walk through the Korean neighborhood as a fun way to spend the day. Since I needed Korean red chili paste for a dish I was making, I decided to hit the markets on Tuesday and see what treasures I could hunt up.

Here’s a breakdown of what I bought, after hitting three markets in about two hours:

Korean market goodies

More details below. Also, as much as I would have liked to take photos of the inside, I felt a wee bit conspicuous. Got photos of the outside instead.
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Filed Under: Streets & Markets Tagged With: Korean food, Zona Rosa

Bacon-wrapped jalapeños… in a tortilla

August 5, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

Bacon-wrapped jalapeños

Back when Crayton and I were still dating, when I’d just gotten the cooking bug, I proposed (not that kind of proposal) that I whip up a Sunday brunch. We could have eggs. And cajeta pound cake. And these little things I’d just read about in a newspaper article: bacon-wrapped jalapeños stuffed with cream cheese.

This was circa 2002, I believe. Or maybe 2003. All the years have started to run together lately…

In any case, my friend Michelle came over to be my cooking co-pilot, and we cut and seeded jalapeños, and took turns stirring the liquid cement-like pound cake batter. (This is when I realized the handiness of electric mixers.) Everyone loved it all — but it was the jalapeños that captured everyone’s heart. They were smoky, and creamy, and just a wee bit spicy. You could eat four before you even know what you were doing. It was a jalapeño hypnotic state.

Since that day, I’ve made the jalapeños pretty much every year, usually at manly inspired events such as The Super Bowl. On Saturday, I made them for So Drunk in the August Sun Day, which is a holiday Crayton and his friends came up to honor sitting outside and drinking. We popped the jalapeños on the grill and they were a huge hit.

Seriously, if you want a go-to appetizer — and you have friends who are not vegetarians — this is pretty much it. On Sunday we also threw ’em in tortillas, because we live in Mexico and we roll like that. It was quite good.

Recipe below.
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Filed Under: Recipes Tagged With: bacon, fresh chiles, tortillas

Hangover potato bread

August 4, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

Potato bread

There was a big outdoor concert on Reforma on Sunday night, and in the midst of a string of lesser-known Spanish-language pop bands, I got bored and felt like going for a beer. Three micheladas and two glasses of wine later, I was feeling gooood. The next morning, though — revenge. Dry mouth. Headache.

I’d forgotten to eat anything on my beverage spree.

I ate some dry cereal and grumbled to myself about how I was too old for this crap. In my brain fog, I downloaded Confessions of a Shopaholic. (Note to everyone else: BAD IDEA.) Then I saw a bowl of potatoes sitting on the counter.

Wait.

Potato bread. That could make my hangover better.

It was warm, hearty. My stomach could handle a yeasty slice soaked in butter. Hell, maybe I’d even have it for lunch, since I certainly wouldn’t be eating the last serving of Alice’s homemade kung pao chicken. (She’d brought some over on Saturday.) Okay, it was settled. I’d make potato bread. But first, to get myself in kneading shape, I would need a sugar injection in the form of Diet Coke. Thank you, past Lesley, for buying a Diet Coke at Oxxo on Saturday.

Feeling unfit to google any recipes, I grabbed Joy of Cooking from its handy spot on top of our Spanish-language dictionary and flipped to the potato bread recipe. I microwaved and riced a potato, made my dough, and kneaded it until sweat beads formed at my temples. Unsure of exactly how fast it would rise because of the high altitude, I watched the dough carefully as it rose and then rose again.

By 2 p.m., I had a warm, golden-brown loaf resting on a wire rack. But by then I wasn’t hungry anymore. I’d also decided to whip up a bowl of jook for lunch. Yes. When other people are hungover, they sit in their pajamas all day. I make potato bread and Chinese rice porridge. I think I have Energizer Bunnies in my intestines.

When I finally did cut off a slice — while watching the dreadfully shallow Confessions movie (Isla Fisher, why have you abandoned me?) — the bread almost fulfilled my dreams. It needed more potato flavor, but the texture was just about perfect. Soft and chewy. Just the type of pillow you’d want to rest your hangover-pounding head on.

Recipes below, in case your head is ever in a vise, too. The jook is amazingly easy. A thickened, creamy rice porridge seems especially fit for overcast days like today.
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Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: bread, High altitude baking

A light breakfast of tacos de nana, or the meat of the pig uterus

July 31, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

A yummy taco de nana

I’ve been fascinated with tacos de nana ever since my friend Jesica told me about them months ago. We were playing dominoes and everyone was a little tipsy, and the conversation drifted to all the weird things you can stick in tortilla here.

“Uterus?” I’d sputtered. “Uterus tacos?” My taco universe suddenly opened up. God had tipped his cards, and they were covered in gooey pictures of pig parts.

Interestingly, no one else seemed as excited as me. (This is starting to become a trend.) But then a few months later, I was chatting with Jesica’s business partner Martha, who mentioned that she had a carnitas taquero de confianza in Del Valle.

The concept of “confianza” is uniquely Mexican. It basically means trust, and it’s used in all sorts of situations. It’s important to have a cleaning lady “de confianza.” A locksmith “de confianza.” A plumber “de confianza.” I’ve even seen bakeries advertising themselves to be de confianza. I’d never heard of a taquero de confianza, but it made sense, and I begged Martha to let me go with her next time she trekked down to Del Valle.

So it came to be that last Sunday, the morning I was sweating away on my hamburger buns, Martha invited me out for a carnitas tacos breakfast. (Fried meat en la mañana — this is how Mexicans roll.) She drove me to the Mercado Lázaro Cárdenas in Del Valle.

It was about 10 a.m. and the mercado was mostly empty. A few women in checkered smocks sat out front in plastic chairs, tending to a flower stand. We walked inside, past empty stands selling fruits and vegetables, dried chiles. We turned a corner and there it was: a small restaurant with a sign reading “Ricas Carnitas y Desayunos.”

The place already had a line for table service, but we ignored it, because Martha never gets a table. Instead we walked straight up to the glass case stuffed with pig parts.

“This is Jorge,” Martha said, introducing me to the smiling man — and quite skinny, for a carnitas vendor — behind the counter. “Jorge, tell her. Haven’t we been coming here for a long time?”

Jorge related how Martha’s family had been customers for more than 70 years, since before the market was even built. Martha’s grandmother’s sister, in fact, discovered the place as a newly married woman who’d moved to Mexico City from the Yucatán. The stand has been there since at least 1935, Jorge said.

Martha, who used to eat 10 tacos in one sitting here as a kid — lately, she tops out around four — said she never actually orders specific kinds of tacos. She just lets Jorge choose whatever he wants.

“Is that okay with you?” she asked me.

Was that okay with me? I was living a dream. I think at this point my pupils had been replaced by two stars.

Jorge grabbed a few pieces of meat from inside the case, sliced them thinly and began chopping on a tree-stump like cutting board behind the counter. He chopped them so finely, they were almost minced. Then he sprinkled the meat in a corn tortilla hot off the comal, and drizzled on some salsa verde. He placed the tacos on two small plates, each lined with a square of paper.

“Trompa and lengua,” he announced. Snout and tongue.

Martha dug in. I did too, but not before wondering whether I would hate the tongue because of its bumpy texture.

Turned out I needn’t have worried. The meat was chopped so fine, I couldn’t really discern any strange textures. Only a slight meatiness of the tongue, and a smidge of fattiness from the trompa. And anyway, the seasoning had enveloped my brain: slightly tangy, salty. It married perfectly with the bright green salsa. I gobbled mine up in minutes, before I even had a chance to take a picture. So I got some of the glass case instead.

Pig parts, for carnitas tacos

The actually very delicious trompa, or snout

The carnitas chopping post

Next up: higado. I didn’t realize liver tacos were part of the carnitas oeuvre — nor did I know I even liked liver, until I tasted Jorge’s. He took a chunk of liver from the case and again, sliced it thinly. He added some cuerito, which are bits of fried pig skin. Then chop chop chop, toss meat on tortilla, drizzle with salsa. Fold and place in front of two hungry girls.

The liver had a stronger, gamier taste than the trompa/lengua combo, but it was gentler somehow. It did not have the table-pounding, “I am liver!” taste of liver and onions. This was beach-side liver. Liver you’d eat while sitting under an umbrella, curled up with a good book. I liked the contrast between the two tacos that came before it.

Next: the tacos de nana, my reason for coming. The meat sat in a big olla, under the glass. Most people would try not to look at it, but I wanted to take a picture. (As a sidenote, I also don’t get grossed out during the human-anatomy operating scenes on TV.) Martha asked a woman behind the counter if she wouldn’t mind, and so the woman took the camera and snapped this.

A pot of nana, before it's chopped into tacos

Once chopped up, the nana looked innocuous enough. I thought it would be like tripa — the thick, rubbery sheet that’s cubed and often eaten in menudo — but it wasn’t. The fatty parts were about the thickness of a fingernail. And they clung to bits of meat. It tasted even milder than the lengua, but blanketed in the same seasoning and salsa.

“How are they?” Martha asked.

I could only nod and widen my eyes. Then I ate the rest of my nana.

Lastly, we ordered a “sesadilla” — a mix of brains and chicharrón, which are crispy fried bits of pig skin. (Chicharron is cuerito, but deep fried, so that the skin has a fluffed-up appearance.) I’d had brains before, at Bar Belmont in Colonia Juarez and Cafe Tacuba. These brains were a bit different, though. They were creamier. I asked Jorge how he prepares them, and he said he whisks them in order to give them a softer texture. (He also said some other stuff I didn’t understand.)

The sesadilla was completely different than all the other tacos Martha and I had tried — it was so creamy and gloppy, with a meaty, kind of sour taste. I tried not to think of the words “sour brains” as I ate, and instead of something nicer, like pudding.

My halfway-eaten sesadilla

We ate four tacos each, and I had an orange-tuna fruit juice. Martha got two sodas. Total price was about $10.

We left feeling full, but not like we had to roll ourselves out the door. For some reason I felt like I’d eaten a light breakfast. Maybe it was because the meat was chopped so fine. Or maybe… part of me, the gustatory part, is actually becoming a little more Mexican.

A girl can hope.

Filed Under: Mexico City, Streets & Markets Tagged With: tacos

The charm of the chicken lady

July 29, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

Yesterday Alice and I went to Mercado Juarez, a huge indoor market at the Cuauhtemoc metro stop. We happened upon the chicken sellers first, and as we scanned over everyone, trying to figure out who sold the best birds, I immediately spotted the woman I wanted to buy from.

She stood at a small stall — perhaps the most humble of them all — with a hand-lettered sign tacked to an boxy, 1950s-era refrigerator. She looked about 65 or so, and her hair was graying at the temples.

What attracted me to her was her smile. It took up her whole face. It crinkled the corners of her eyes. And it was like she couldn’t not smile. She smiled as she whacked away at the chicken, smiled as she cut into it with scissors, smiled as she pounded it flat on a small tree stump. A crowd of women customers had gathered in front of her counter, and she talked to them as she worked. Smiling, of course.

I walked up behind the crowd and waited, inching my way closer as other customers left. Finally I was at the front, sharing the counter space with just one other customer, a middle-aged woman with her two sons. The woman ordered seven chicken thighs.

“Quito el piel?” the smiling chicken worker asked. Remove the skin?

The woman nodded.

The older lady pulled and tugged on the skin, ripping it off in a matter of seconds.

“Quito los huesos?” Remove the bones?

The woman nodded. “Sí por favor.”

The chicken lady took her scissors — massive things, bigger than her hands, nearly the size of her head — and expertly made an incision, and then pulled out the bone with her fingers. The bones collected on the side of the counter in a tidy pile. She then whipped open the scissor blades and, using the edge of one blade, delicately cut into them again, transforming the thighs into flat, lumpy little sheets.

She placed them between sheets of cellophane, and then placed that on a tree stump, pounding them flat with a mallet.

She talked to the middle-aged woman while she worked. She stole little glances at me, too, just to let me know I could listen.

“Do you know what I had the other day? Pork ribs. But they were pork ribs in the best sauce, it was a red wine sauce. Oh, and the potato puree that this woman made! There must have been six garlic cloves in it. And she put cream, too. Ooooh… it was delicious.” She smiled.

How could I not love this woman? She was basically me at 65, but working in a chicken stand.

By the time she was done with the middle-aged woman’s order, 15 minutes had passed, and one of the woman’s sons had started to get impatient. He reached for a chicken breast that sat on the counter, and tugged on its wrinkled skin. His mother swatted his hand. The boy made a sour face.

They left and finally, it was my turn.

“Good afternoon. How can I help you?” she asked.

“Do you have any more chicken thighs?”

“Of course!” She walked to her ancient refrigerator and pulled out a plastic bag. The thighs plopped on the counter. One, two, three, four.

I told her I wanted the same flat-style thighs the woman before me had ordered. So she got to work, removing skin, deboning, slicing. She gave me recipe advice: saute them in a nonstick pan — less fat that way — with some garlic salt and lime juice. And then I could serve it with a salad. I nodded and smiled.

“And if you ever want to serve tostadas,” she added, “there’s a certain brand that are baked, and they have zero fat. They’re wonderful!” She smiled again.

Before I left, I asked her how long she’d been working there.

“Uuuuf,” she said, thinking. “The market’s been here for more than 50 years. My mom started bringing me here with her when I was five.”

She gave me my flattened chicken thighs in a plastic bag, and sent me off with a “Come back soon!”

Usually I buy my chicken on Sundays at the tianguis, at a stand run by a bunch of dour-faced men. No more. This chicken lady has stolen my heart.

Filed Under: Streets & Markets Tagged With: chicken

An American hamburger in Mexico

July 27, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

Our homemade, American-style burger

Ever since our new grill finally started working — did I tell you? Our grill WORKS! — we’ve been testing it out, with dumb grins on our faces. Last week we grilled pork ribs and mango slices. Yesterday we invited friends over and decided to make hamburgers. Thick ones. With (hold your breath)… homemade hamburger buns.

In my cooking control-freak mind, we could not attempt the perfect burger (that’s what our new grill was meant for, right?) without having the perfect bun. And so my body woke itself up on Sunday at 7 a.m., because even though I’d gone to bed at midnight the night before, and drank several glasses of wine that day, and therefore needed more sleep dammit — well, my internal clock was set to buns. Sprinkled on top with sesame seeds.

Yesterday morning, with light barely coming through the window, I whisked and kneaded and slapped the dough. I used a dough scraper to create eight little mounds, and then arranged them on a baking sheet. By 9:45 a.m., just in time for me to take a cab to Condesa to eat carnitas breakfast tacos (yes, this is the life I lead), the rolls had just come out of the oven. I cut one in half and tasted it just before walking out the door. Fabulous.

Crayton was in charge of the meat. He bought some ground beef at the tianguis, and used The New York Times’ recent burger recipe. It’s pretty simple: form the burgers into four-by-one inch rounds, refrigerate them, season them, then plop them on the grill. We’d bought a block of extra sharp cheddar at City Market, so when the burgers were just about ready, we covered ’em in cheese. And toasted those buns.

A few slathers of lime-flavored mayonnaise later, and some sliced beefsteak tomato and a few sheathes of iceberg lettuce, and we had a big ol’, very American burger. (Slightly lopsided, but that’s okay. We’re novices.)

We served the burgers with cold chayote salad in a roasted garlic vinaigrette, and spicy sweet potato fries. Dessert was leftover peach ice cream and tuna roja ice, which was just about the prettiest color nieve I’ve ever seen:

Red tuna-fruit ice... isn't it brilliant?

Recipes below, if you want to attempt at home. I’m calling it “An American Cookout in Mexico.” And I’m already thinking of how to make the burgers better. Next time we’re doing homemade mayo, y’all. Oooh, or maybe a choice of homemade mayos. Chipotle mayo. Chile morita mayo. Cilantro mayo…
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Filed Under: Expat Life, Recipes Tagged With: cheese, High altitude baking

Roasted chicken tacos in the Zona Rosa

July 27, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

Gili Pollos in the Zona Rosa

On Saturday, Crayton and I were about to catch a pesero to City Market — the Mexico City gourmet market of all gourmet markets, or so they say — when we realized we were both hungry. Not super hungry. Just a little bit.

Thanking the lord that we lived in a country where one can satisfy that kind of hunger perfectly (and cheaply), I suggested we hit Gili Pollos, a roasted-chicken joint on the corner of Sevilla and Chapultepec. The name is a play on a Castilian Spanish word that, loosely translated, means “dumb ass.”

I’m a fan of clever word play. And I’ve been curious about Mexican roasted chicken lately. Unlike in the U.S., where most people buy roasted birds at the supermarket, in Mexico there’s an entire industry of rosticerias, or specialized chicken-roasting joints. Many are open-air, and the birds roast slowly on rows of spits, their skins turning a crispy, dark-golden brown.

Gili Pollas has a certain nostalgic charm, too. The workers wear paper hats, and there are black-and-white checkered floors inside. We grabbed a table underneath the awning above, which overlooked the bustling Avenida Chapultepec. The chicken tacos were 13 pesos each — kind of pricey for one taco, I thought.

“Do you want onion?” a young guy in a paper hat asked us.

“Oh yeah,” I said.

And then he set this in front of us:

A typical Gili Pollos taco

It was enough meat for two tacos, easily. And it had onion, and cabbage. Both drenched in chicken drippings. Next to the plate was a bowl of pickled jalapeños for garnish, and red salsa.

The meat had bones, so I picked off a few chunks and placed them in a tortilla. (No idea if this is the proper way Mexicans eat them or not, but who cares.) Threw in some jalapeños and salsa, and gobbled it up in few minutes. The chicken was succulent, and the skin — it was crispy and perfect, and worth the trip alone.

With happy and full stomachs, and only $2 lighter in our pocketbooks, we crossed Chapultepec and caught the pesero to Del Valle.

I highly recommend the place, if you’re ever in the neighborhood. There’s also an outpost in the Centro, at Isabel la Católica and 5 de Mayo.

Gili Pollos
Corner of Avenida Chapultepec and Salamanca, in Colonia Juarez (Zona Rosa)

Filed Under: Mexico City, Streets & Markets Tagged With: chicken, pesero, street food, tacos, Zona Rosa

Roasted peach ice cream with manzano-chile infused caramel sauce

July 24, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

Roasted peach ice cream with caramel sauce

A few weeks ago, I was strolling around Mercado San Juan when I spied some white, donut-shaped peaches at a back stall.

“Can I have a taste of these?” I asked the woman.

She grabbed one and cut off a thick slice. One bite — one juicy, sweet, summery bite — and I was sold. I bought a kilo.

I had a vague idea to make ice cream, but when I got home and started googling, I realized I’d just barely hit the tip of the iceberg. I could make roasted peach ice cream. With caramel sauce. But not just any caramel sauce. Chili-infused caramel sauce.

[Pause for “Ooooooooh” moment.]

The spicy caramel sauce idea wasn’t mine. Food, She Thought, an LA-based food blogger, had gushed recently about a habanero-caramel sauce sundae she’d tried at a fair, and then successfully made at home. Roasted peaches would go perfectly with that. Right?

And so. A few weeks ago, I cut up my peaches and doused them in agave honey. Then I arranged them like fat little snails on a baking sheet….

Mmmm... peaches

Peaches ready for roasting

And then I roasted ’em….

Roasted peaches

And I snuck in a few bites of peaches, and they were so fabulous, I almost wanted to cry. But no. Must not eat more. Must put them in the ice cream.

Into the cream they went. By then I’d done so much work, I was ready to eat the damn thing already. Forgot to mention, my recipe called for peach preserves, but my local Mexican supermarket doesn’t carry them. So I whipped up a quick batch by hand. Yes, I’m insane.

After pouring my ice cream into an old yogurt container, which I keep for just these types of purposes, I got up the next morning and tasted it.

And it was… okay. Not spectacular. But good for a weeknight. (If I was the type of girl who ate ice cream on a weeknight — usually I prefer dark chocolate.)

The deal was, the ice cream needed more depth. I didn’t use any eggs — I was “experimenting” — and it was just too milky and creamy. Plus, despite me roasting the peaches, it lacked in-your-face peach flavor. Maybe I should have used more. Or maybe I should have added more homemade peach preserves. In any case, next time I’m going to use Dorie Greenspan’s recipe, which calls for pureeing peaches and adding it directly to the custard. And I’m going to try out peach liqueur. Wish they sold fifths of that… I can’t see myself drinking peach liqueur, ever.

Feeling kind of lukewarm about the peaches, I made the caramel sauce a few days later. And for my very first caramel sauce, it was great. Luscious and pretty and creamy. (The secret: Don’t stir it. EVER.) Per Food She Thought’s instructions, I sliced up some manzano chilies (couldn’t find habanero) and added them to boiling water. Then I added that water to the sugar, which eventually became caramel.

The sauce was spicy, but in a strange way. Like, three minutes after you started eating, a slow burn developed, somewhere in the back of your throat. I wanted more fire up front — something to contrast immediately with the sweetness of the peaches.

I’m still researching this — maybe I should try adding chili oil at the end, instead of spicy water at the beginning? Because my next stop is chili-infused cajeta. Morita-chili infused cajeta.

Meanwhile, my jar of spicy caramel is still sitting in the fridge. I’m thinking about drizzling it on apples. The ice cream just isn’t good enough.

Recipes below, if you’re interested.
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Filed Under: Recipes Tagged With: chiles, ice cream

A trip to Maque, and my search for the perfect concha roll

July 23, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

Maque in La Condesa

As you’ve probably already guessed, at any given moment of the day, I’m thinking about food in some form or another. I get obsessed with ingredients quickly — panela cheese! mangoes! mamey! — and then the obsession peters out, replaced by the next thing.

Lately, hovering about it all, is my obsession with the concha roll.

Bondy started this whole business. A few weeks after we moved here, we went there for breakfast, and the waiters presented us with the lushest, softest concha I’d ever seen. This was not the bland concha of my American childhood. I took a bite and felt myself lifting up out of my seat, my spirit transported to the clouds, where piles of rainbow-colored conchas frolicked in rays of God-light.

Since then I’ve tried to find a concha that’s equal to or better than Bondy. I hadn’t had much luck so far, but then I heard about Maque, a Condesa café on Parque Mexico. My guidebooks raved about Maque’s conchas. So we went last Sunday for breakfast. A friend warned us to get there before noon, because the tables fill up quickly.

Just before noon, there was already a 30 minute wait, and the smell of baking bread enveloped the entrance and teased everyone. Waitresses in long, light-blue dresses and white scalloped aprons bustled around with trays of pan dulce, offering bisquets, cuernitos, cinnamon rolls and tiny baby conchas to the customers sitting outside. I tried to ignore the rumbling in my stomach.

Finally, we got a table, and our waitress took our coffee order and rushed away. I stared longingly at a tray of bread nearby.

A few minutes later, she appeared again. This time clutching the tray and a pair of tongs.

“A piece of sweet bread?” she asked.

I pointed at a caramel-colored baby concha.

“And for you sir?”

Crayton got a cuernito.

She placed the concha on my little white plate, and I prepared my fork and knife. Oh man. This was it! This was it. I took a bite of the concha and…

Disappointment. It was on the dry side. And bland. The crunchy, quilted crust was nice, but it was definitely not as good as a concha from Bondy. I decided not to even take a picture of it.

When she came around the next time, I ordered a bisquet with a dollop of queso.

A bisquet from Maque

It was dense and buttery, and much better.

I’m not going to rule out Maque yet. Maybe our rolls were old. Maybe new ones had just came out of the oven, but a mean waitress grabbed them and served them to another table. Maybe the larger conchas taste much better, and everyone knows that but me.

I’m going to give them one more chance. And the next time I’m there, I might have to sneak in a taste of their cinnamon rolls, too.

Fabulous-looking sweet bread at Maque

More yummy sweet bread at Maque in La Condesa

Filed Under: The Best Concha Tagged With: conchas, pan dulce

My papá de azúcar

July 22, 2009 by Lesley Tellez

Our Mexican bank screwed up the PIN number on my debit card, so I can’t use the ATM. Lately I’ve had to ask Crayton anytime I need money.

“Honey? Do you have 100 pesos? I want to take a cab to Polanco.”

“Honey? Do you have 100 pesos? I have my dance class today.”

Of course he doesn’t care, nor does he ask me for an explanation. I automatically offer one because I don’t want him to think I’m spending his money frivolously.

Where did this “his money” stuff come from? As a married couple, we don’t believe in it. His money is my money. My money is his money. We have a pool of “our” money, and we always have, since we got married. Under the budgetary rules we designed, both of us have a set amount of cash we can spend each month on things like dance classes and cab rides. (Or for him, beer and beer.) We don’t need to report to the other person what we’re spending.

But now, well…. a tiny voice inside me has piped up. Maybe, because I’m not working, he controls the purse strings?

Usually it’s just a small pine-nut of guilt and I can ignore it. Because if he controls the purse strings, then that means I’m somehow less equal in our partnership. That the work I do — cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, social-calendar planning, freelance writing — is somehow less valuable. And I know in my heart that’s not true. In order for this whole “not working” thing to work, I need to believe that what I do matters. And at this point, 95 percent of me does.

The other day, I forgot to ask him for money to pay Lola. It happened to fall on a day when he couldn’t leave the office. So I went and visited him, and it was nice to see him there, in front of his four computer screens. But it was weird that I was there for cash. (I tried to joke about it. “Can I please have my money, papá de azúcar? Thank you.”) He gave me 200 pesos and I left.

But then, when I got home, I realized I needed 100 pesos more. So I had to go back again. This time I felt a teensy bit more embarrassed — a smidge more like a 50’s housewife who needed cash for the hair salon. I got my money and left. Didn’t say hi or smile at anyone.

I know, I know there’s no point in feeling guilty about any of this. There’s no truth to it. I am spending our money. Not his money. We are both equal here.

My new PIN number should arrive by early next week, and I’m sure once I can get my own money out of the ATM, I’ll forget all about this. Can’t wait to buy my own Starbucks coffee without asking hubby for change.

Filed Under: Reflections Tagged With: wifely musings

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Mija is Lesley Téllez, a writer, mom, and culinary entrepreneur in New York City. I lived in Mexico City for four years, which cemented my deep love for Mexican food and culture. I'm currently the owner/operator of the top-rated tourism company Eat Mexico. I also wrote the cookbook Eat Mexico: Recipes from Mexico City's Streets, Markets & Fondas.

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